Good morning Friends,
Noticed when I want to do or have something that violates familial or social conditioning, same for seemingly insignificant matters, I feel a twinge of discomfort in my stomach. Therein is the fire that powers “I’m doing this, whether ‘they’ like it or not!”
Allow life!
Good morning Friends,
My attitude regarding the recent ‘war’ events dominating the news is…
Let everybody you dislike in the world do what they do. Leave them alone. Stop complaining and trying to control their behaviors. You can’t anyway. Instead, expand your time, increase your energy, improve your own life by developing your spiritual self and by offering the world your creative gifts—we all have more than one. And you will experience a bountiful harvest of growth, joy, sound health, as much money as you want and more, and whatever else your heart desires. Allow happiness, it’s not hard to do!
Allow the Flow!
Have a Prosperous New Year Friends!
My 3-year hiatus from blogging has planted me solidly into this now moment. I am here to shape this platform into a personal journal highlighting the sequence of my self-development, growth, and creative expression.
I suspect you are in agreement that we women need to share our progress with each other in order to boost our well-being and evolution. For we are the first guardians, teachers, educators and mentors of our children and men. They are watching us.
I welcome your wisdom and ideas for moving forward. Thank you.
Allow Life!
Thandiwe
– Non-fiction Author
– Speaker
– Personal Success Group Coach (women only)
– VoiceOver Artist
Good morning Friends,
It has been a long while since I last posted. Not because I had abandoned my love of speaking to invoke introspection and discussion or to assist in problem solving. Not because of a succession of mishaps and troubling inconveniences in my personal life. I was not even scared to announce changes in my path. I was unable to.
The mere thought to project sound towards curious ears or to link words on paper was intolerable, even painful. I could not afford to breach this sweet, mysterious, horizonless silence—a life opportunity was at hand. I had to embrace it with all my might and hold on with all three eyes: the physical and mental eyes that scheme to show who you are and who you are not.
“Dive deep, examine, release” was the command I heard. I did, and amongst the heap of dreams, my-story and my future, I rediscovered my true passion.
Ironically, the discovery was not the theatrical event as you would imagine; but rather an awareness so clear and complete in its delivery that thought was non-existent. I got it. Every cell in my body got it. I-we wanted to fly with my new wings.
Fact is, my true passion and supporting passions have been evolving and unfolding over time, since I was a youngster. My trajectory has prepared me for this moment.
I had to grow into it via awareness, practice, the grueling process of letting go of outgrown beliefs, and discernment of the work that is fundamental to human unfoldment. This work is best executed by women who are willing, able and ready to step up into the position of wise, compassionate, dedicated leaders on the world stage.
I say world stage because women are the first educators of humankind. We are in the most powerful position to push the global shift from lineal, ego driven, aggressive motivations to a refined paradigm of all-inclusive thinking, being, relating and creating, with intent to stand collectively, heal and serve the cause of spiritual well-being. Women can model vibrant health, fearless stance, safety, mutual support, wisdom, justice and beauty for all. This great work must begin within each individual–our outer life shows the public how we consistently orchestrate the inner workings of the mind and physical activity.
Be natural!
What are your thoughts?
Good morning Beuatiful People,
I sincerely apologize for the inconvenience. I have just discovered that I had not saved the edited version of yesterday’s post (Past Tense Dies) before publishing.
The final version is now waiting for your discerning eye and comments. 😉
Thank you so much for understanding.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Allow happiness!
Tandi
Good morning, Beautiful People!
As soon as I integrate an emerging aspect of the self, a new one pops up, screaming to be recognized, hugged and invited to flourish in my awareness. I wholeheartedly welcome each one in spite of the difficulties involved in supplanting destructive beliefs. Difficulties challenge my resistance to freedom from past tense thinking, feeling, speaking and doing. And yes, past tense-based intentions also!
Purpose of past tense
Generically speaking, past tense informs you that something has already happened. It is a finished product. Therefore, it can never be altered or undone. I was, you did, it happened. Thoughts, words, intentions, events or acts can never ever revert back to an unexpressed idea; just as a timepiece does not rewind itself; just as the thing born can never return to gestation. Time appears gradually to subtract life from the subject, to diminish possibilities. Not true of course unless you believe it!
Time for me is a mental concept: a sequential emergence of intention, speech, situations, growth, creativity and awakening. Nothing moves forward or backwards because in the static now moment is a continuous emergence of ideas called forth into physical form via an infinite number of sustained intentions.
So past tense is essentially a reference library to facilitate clear communication or simply to entertain. Otherwise, you misuse the faculty of memory with endless reruns of past events, wishes, regrets and fantasies.
Abusing the past
You become so amorous with memories that you ignore the opportunities and resources (to materialize your current intentions) that are already here in this moment. In order to feel alive, you embellish delusions and collect pity or adulation to avoid autonomy. You incessantly exhume the “good ‘ole days”, hoping they will miraculously rise from the dead. Or you drag listeners into a scenario of a hapless victim enduring extreme suffering. Oh my, woe is me! Why? Victims get exempted from responsibilities!
Digging up memories
But feasting on yester thoughts destabilizes the body and starts the withering process. Look and you will sense similitude between past tense dwellers and dilapidated shacks. This is one of the major causes of chronic loneliness, paranoia and feelings of alienation from the self. You tend to make other people responsible for your misery or happiness when, in fact, it is unconsciously self-inflicted or contrived.
Eventually though, you grow weary of aimlessly wandering around with your head turned 180%, expecting to find happiness in the graves of your mind. You want congruence, inclusion, to be an authentic participant in this world. You want to be true to yourself, to see what that truth IS for YOU. And you can, starting now…if you can accept challenges as a fundamental instrument for growth and success.
Sometimes challenges disguise themselves as omnipotent enemies or strings of disappointing situations or phantom lovers. More vigilant than flees, they hound you day and night; and no amount of intellectual trickery can wipe them out. Their sole objective is to dismantle a primal instinct to hide from your own mischief. Challenges—one’s own innate volition—‘force’ you to see how YOU are totally responsible for the minutiae you experience. You will draw unto you that which is aligned with your current state of being. And you alone decide that state.
Putting past tense to rest
Within the now moment is the permanent opportunity to use all the fresh ideas you can in any way you want to. No questions, no prerequisites, no judgment whatsoever, except your own resistance to live fully, freely and joyously, which can only happen in the now. Then why do you flee from the actions you want to take? You are clinging to self-limiting beliefs formulated from direct or indirect experiences. That is why you are easily distracted and (like a hopeless addict) engage in activities that sap your energy. You procrastinate. Your fear-based beliefs prevent you from committing to your intentions. They cripple your attempts to persist, concentrate on and complete best actions. That said, Do not despair! I have discovered in myself a process that is working for me. Allow me to share this with you.
In order to accept and love yourself as you are, you first must understand, approve of and love who you were and the past as it was. (Warning: Self-deception does not work here.)
Acknowledge the facts about every scenario that comes to mind. Accept what the past and you, were, not are. Step aside and observe the thoughts and emotions that surface. Neither resist nor drag them on, opting for self-pity. Let them surface and dissolve naturally.
Follow your intuitive thread and see how you played your part in creating and responding to your reality. Writing down your insights enables you to see deeper that you were 100% responsible, as every person involved is totally responsible for their part.
Layers of emotions will surface. Let them. Remember to allow. Do not attempt to control or prove anything. Do not put a time limit on this process. Revisit each step as many times as required to reach clarity.
Have compassion and forgive yourself, everyone and everything involved UNTIL you transcend the habit of judging (an escape from responsibility) and reach complete clarity on your total participation in a past reality. It only reflected your inner state of being at that time. The beliefs, habits, self-image that you brought into this lifetime spilled over into your childhood and beyond. Accept and learn from these. They are clues to complete healing.
At some point, you will discover there is nothing to forgive after all—it was an experiment to point you towards the self that you came here to expose to the world in your own magnificent way.
Allow yourself to completely accept and love the past and yourself as you were. There is nothing mushy or dramatic about this. It happens naturally as you surrender to what was.
Appreciate yourself, everyone, everything involved in your yester moments—how perfectly ordered, loving, liberating the universe is; how you are free to create any experience you can imagine, always reflecting your state of being, the place in which you stand in awareness of the self.
Be grateful for the opportunity to experiment in playing the game of life as you see fit: discovering, awakening, unfolding more and more of the real you. Be grateful that past tense reality is not to be hoarded but to be released… deliberately.
Now you can love yourself deeply as you are. You can unconditionally share your love in thought, speech, intention, acts and attitude because you have achieved freedom from guilt, regret, blame, shame and arrogance. Your mind and body are present right here, right now. Everything you want is surrounding you. No more waiting, hoping, conniving. Limitless opportunities and possibilities, resources of every kind required, solutions, undiscovered ideas and ‘the right’ people surround you round the clock. Are you ready for this natural state of wealth and living?
When I approve of and accept myself as I was and for everything I did, then I can love myself as I am and enjoy what I am doing.
Tell me: what are your insights, experiences? I would enjoy hearing from you.
So post your comments below before you forget. And if you find something useful in this blog, why not subscribe so you can receive email notification each time I publish a post. Also, I would be highly honored if you recommended this blog to others who might benefit. Thank you in advance.
Men Readers: Your comments are valuable too & highly welcomed! ;-))
Shall we meet up again in a few days?
Until then,
Allow happiness!
Tandi
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Copyright © 2010-2012 Thandiwe Chappot, thefemininefeminine®. All rights reserved worldwide.
Good morning Beautiful People,
Did you know that the greatest lovers act alike. You can feel their presence before meeting them. They appear to do nothing but simply bask in their own love. You are drawn to them in spite of yourself. Their eyes and smile say, “Hi! Welcome home! I love you!”
Every flower and star, every animal and person, every piece of music and mechanical object that attracts your attention wants you to share your love with them. And equally you must. For they are a physical representation of an unconscious part of you—neglected or scorned or taken for granted. Now is the moment to notice, appreciate and to include those aspects of you disguised in various forms of living beings and things.
The greatest lover appreciates and gives totally of himself whether the receiver is sweet or sour, hot or bitter…or bland in character. For he instantly sees his reflection in the receiver.
How can you become the greatest lover? Decide to. Decide to express the fullness of what you are: all-encompassing LOVE. So the question to pose is, “Do I really want to love myself completely?” If yes, then you must include every aspect of you that emerges in the now moment.
You can start by practicing the following suggestions.
Become vigilant in monitoring your habit to avoid sharing your love because you have judged yourself, another person or thing as undeserving, unworthy of consideration, forgiveness, happiness and inclusion. If you peek behind your judgment, you will see these dreaded qualities in others, in yourself. Remember, the only thing you love or hate is you.
Examples of judging can look like malicious gossip, revengeful acts, crashing the accomplishments of folks you envy, criticism, selective amnesia (deliberately omitting positive information), blatant rejection of a person in order to appear superior, powerful in the eyes of others…
Let go of the world’s mesmeric idiocy that sharing love with one will prevent you from sharing with another. The more love you share, the more you will have to share. We are not speaking of sex here. Copulation is not synonymous with love, as you well know. Sharing love is an act of ultimate intelligence, self-awareness, spiritual maturity and authenticity. It is the broadest kindness and sincerity. It is respect and love of the self.
Mentally replace your ill speech reflex with I love you. This includes your thoughts, attitude, emotions, behavior, actions… It is unimportant whether you feel love in the moment or not. You may even feel hateful. But IF your intention is to share what you are, all-encompassing Love, and to acknowledge, accept and include that part of you that is emerging, you will learn and outgrow your habit of self-rejection.
I Love My Selves
The benefits of being the greatest lover are freedom from cowardice, persistent joy and living a life overflowing with magnificent experiences in all directions. Because you are no longer engaged in ill speech in your head or with others, you will have a constant flow of energy and time will expand to accommodate your intentions. You will remain in your natural state of all-encompassing Love.
The greatest lover does not hide from any facet of herself. She places each in the center of her heart.
And you?
Tell me: what are your insights, experiences? I would enjoy hearing from you.
So post your comments below before you forget. And if you find something useful in this blog, why not subscribe so you can receive email notification each time I publish a post. Also, I would be highly honored if you recommended this blog to others who might benefit. Thank you in advance.
Men Readers: Your comments are valuable too & highly welcomed! 😉
Shall we meet up again in a few days?
Until then,
Allow happiness!
Tandi
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Copyright © 2010-2012 Thandiwe Chappot, thefemininefeminine®. All rights reserved worldwide.
Good morning Beautiful People,
It goes to show that any little thing can momentarily thwart your plans though not your core intention! Rather than a text format, I had planned a first try to publish a video post. But instead, I contracted debilitating pneumonia-like symptoms that further deteriorated into acute laryngitis…knocking me down on my knees for two months.
Time for Solitude
Medical results revealed a benign weakness in the lungs that got inflamed. Doctors recommended I tweak my diet, keep my body extra warm during cold weather and abort coughs at the start. Though not the least surprised, I was relieved to hear that I am disease free, as healthy as a wild horse!
The only reason I am yakking about my little problem is not to complain or elicit sympathy but to share an overview of the insights I gained during those weeks of excruciating discomfort. Is that not the purpose of suffering—to lovingly jolt us into alert awareness of parts of ourselves we have ignored? Even though I was preoccupied with undergoing exams and tests for several days, a part of me observed in detached certainty that I would triumph. I knew, as countless times before, that I had to discover the original cause of my problem if I wanted to outgrow it.
From my podium: I alone create the life I live; no one else can alter or control it even if they wanted to. And neither can I interfere in another’s creation. 
That is because every human being is responsible for constructing their experience on earth. You are continuously attracted to your own lifework reflected in circumstances, events and in all the ‘others’ you notice. To explain: the point in which you stand in awareness is always perfectly played out in every detail of your existence. Otherwise, zero state of awareness would result in zero life experience—inertia begets inertia. What a good thing! What freedom! How fun to create, ponder, learn and grow from the results and promptly invent fresh ideas. What a thrill to make new decisions and direct all four feet into the unknown!
Okay, how do I know that? I know because, so far, I have traced each of my challenges and current situation back to my own repetitive thoughts, emotions, beliefs, decisions and activities. I take full responsibility for every little or big thing that has ever ‘happened to me’, which includes prior events that allowed the perfect scenario for birth into this human form: from post-natal dramas to the seamless unfoldment of self, up through present time…all in divine sequence. I am the initiator, conceptualizer, principle player and every person, place or thing represents an aspect of me in some way. Yep, including the sweet, sour or bitter. Therefore, that which I have experienced within me beomes visible as my what-is reality. No exceptions!
But what if I dislike what I have manifested or forever want to keep it?
i can!
Before I respond, allow me to offer my interpretation of ‘what-is’ and ‘resistance’.
What-is is a finished product, unalterable here now reality. Its origins emerge from an individual’s thoughts and emotions and increase via countless other people on the same wavelength. In other words, your thoughts combine with the thoughts of every person of the same frequency. Included are sustained beliefs, speech, attitude, behavior, preferences and actions. What-is is the untouched-up physical exhibition of your inner lifework up til now.
Resistance is the expression of deeply engrained fear—rigid refusal to allow yourself and all other living beings and things their beingness—to be authentic, true to self, to explore, create and grow in their own unique way. In the moment you are resisting, you are perceiving the appearance of separation around you, so you surmise that the universe is insufficient, prejudiced, haphazard or incomplete. You feel alone, terrified, vulnerable, in danger. Hence, competition, greed, hoarding and narcissism become the platforms from which you function.
Well, when you resist what-is, you are attempting to defile the perfectness of love expressing as life. Your first reflex is to mentally collate what-is into right or wrong, good or bad, keep or kill. Next, the delusional part of you tries to exert authority over others. Imagine:
Me, standing haughtily on a wimpy puff of clouds, blown across the skies by winds of whim and pettiness, peering down on a hapless mass of homo sapiens that are scratching the earth searching for approval, identity and purpose, begging me to control their destiny and to declare my assessment of their unworthiness.
To entertain the idea that you can hold on to or destroy what-is is a symptom of insanity. No? Look around in your infinite mind. Scrutinize your fickle emotions. What is the incentive for war? I am sure you will agree that no one is able to grasp a handful of fog, fold it flat and stuff it into your shirt pocket. Can you roll back five minutes of your life and relive it? Last week’s happiness (and sorrow) is a stale and boring memory…like retelling the episodes of how you learned to sit on a potty chair. Let that memory die!
Are you courageous enough to invite your greater self to emerge today, in this very minute? Are you intelligent enough to decide for your own pleasure? Are you confident enough to allow YOU to express your ever-expanding beauty, wholeness, unique gifts and talents and have fun like a five year old? Do you respect and love yourself enough to laugh at the ignoramus comments from intimate others and do what you want to do anyway?
Happy to be here!
I know you can because I am doing it. And I am you. But it is up to you and only you have the authority, time and free resources to live exactly as YOU please. I said, “Free” because everything you will ever need is already within you…like the seeds of redwoods, like the eggs of people and animals… The moment you decide, you will have started your new adventure: to live fully, freely and joyously. Have fun!
Tell me: what are your insights, experiences? I would enjoy hearing from you.
So post your comments below before you forget. And if you find something useful in this blog, why not subscribe so you can receive email notification each time I publish a post. Also, I would be highly honored if you recommended this blog to others who might benefit. Thank you in advance.
Men Readers: Your comments are valuable too & highly welcomed! 😉
Shall we meet up again in a few days?
Until then,
Allow happiness!
Tandi
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Copyright © 2010-2012 Thandiwe Chappot, thefemininefeminine®. All rights reserved worldwide.
Good morning Beautiful People!
Part two of article, Chic Pavlovians, starts with a quote from the last post: “Worse, they eagerly pay to be a guinea pig for experimental facial or whole body makeovers.”
Denatured!
Everything created has a lifespan. Everything crafted is destructible. Everything learned can be transmuted. Including your knee jerk reactions, your conditioned reflexes to join the chic clique of robot consumers and laboratory guinea pigs for the pharmaceutical industry…remember Pavlov’s dogs? You can take back control of your mind by discovering your (not other folks’) values and priorities and act from that platform. Why dilute the richness of your original you by duplicating destructive personalities and behavior when being your authentic self is so effortless and extremely attractive and it lasts a lifetime?
You have chosen to discount your natural beauty, magnificent uniqueness and subject your delicate body to physical and psychological torture. So why do you shout, “I’m a helpless victim! Feel sorry for me! Love this person I hate!” Blaming incompetent or charlatan doctors for mutilating your flesh will not exonerate you from personal responsibility. It was your own volition to be a trial specimen. And it is only you who can decide to search the depths of your authentic self and discover your true identity, which has nothing to do with anyone else.
One woe-is-gullible-me strategy for avoiding responsibility is to ignore the dubious information your doctor prescribes or hideous work environments. Why behave as if your body belongs to someone else…like beasts marching to a slaughterhouse. Nature is beautiful in the eyes of its individuated selves but only human beings loathe their own anatomy to the extent they take extreme risks to resemble a 23 year old as much as cosmetically possible.
Note: If these surgeries were corrective or restorative interventions because of disease, accidents, birth defects or disfigurement from aggression, for examples, I would not be writing this article.
Now I also enjoy pampering and adorning my body (socially appropriate) while maintaining my individuality. It is a fun challenge and demonstration of physical awareness, artistry, beauty and sexual attraction. Hey! Is not every animal essentially alike! However, the idea to butcher and patch up my body like a fifth-generation quilt so that I can try to dupe folks into believing I am a rare bird that defies her age or closely resembles the current celebrity, is not at all my perception of elegance and authenticity.
The compulsion that drives you to hack off body parts, extract sections of innards like workers pumping out sewage or to inject or implant foreign matter without considering the consequences, emerges from strong self-contempt. Just as destructive is your decision to empty your cash reserves or forego basic necessities of living in order to purchase a persona so that you can compete for or maintain a life partner or job position. You are only chasing a perverse image of your self. And substituting material things and fake looks for self-awareness and self-respect will not bring you lasting happiness and will definitely not rid you of anxiety. Media adverts, reality or sob story talk shows, gossip news and billboard ads target people who would rather be anything but self.
Initially, you may wonder how you fell out of sync with authenticity. Well, you simply forgot your identity: a whole exquisite being that is born with every possible thing needed to flourish and live the most joyous, loving, creative, successful, fun, vibrant life beyond your imagination. You believe that happiness, beauty and freedom are commodities to sacrifice for; in fact, these qualities are already yours, whether you allow them to emerge from and through you or not. Your state of self-forgetfulness is not permanent though…unless you lack the courage to know the real you.
Some questions to ask and answer for yourself:
Remember this: Everything created has a lifespan. Everything crafted is destructible. Everything learned can be transmuted. You can take back control of your mind by exploring the depths of your self, right here where you stand in life, right now this very day.
Did you know that when you stare into a mirror in order to see yourself, an image of the sweet, unpolluted beauty of your youth emerges? And when you sincerely accept and love this image, it will remain visible, a constant reminder of your fearless, joyous, confident self. First, it radiates through your face. When you are more receptive of you, your entire body will feel and appear to be more and more vibrant and youthful. So why wait? Try it now!
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Tell me: what are your insights, experiences? I would enjoy hearing from you.
So post your comments below before you forget. And if you find something useful in this blog, why not subscribe so you can receive email notification each time I publish a post. Also, I would be highly honored if you recommended this blog to others who might benefit. Thank you in advance.
Men Readers: Your comments are valuable too & highly welcomed! 😉
Shall we meet up again in a few days?
Until then,
Allow happiness!
Tandi
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Copyright © 2010-2012 Thandiwe Chappot, thefemininefeminine®. All rights reserved worldwide.
Good morning Beautiful People!
Sometimes, I am amazed when educated adults instantly latch on to crowd hysteria. Because shopping during the sales is not a leisure activity: it is an addictive stimulant as hazardous as a battlefield, physically and financially. That is why astute preparation is mandatory. You must have mental discipline and physical strength in order to withstand aggressive elbows, razor sharp dagger fingernails, gladiator attacks, insults from the enemy, high-jacking of your purchases and the fights over must-have items. So you can imagine that donning war gear is a matter of life or death! Here is one version of how you can return home without incidence or with minimal injuries and loss of hair.
Sales Bell
To start, set your alarm clock to wake you 720 minutes before the shops open so that you will be the first to queue up for 25 hours in northern wind and rain, earthquake aftershocks and soup thick air pollution. Before heading for bed, get fully dressed (except for shoes) to save time. You will need Velcro© sneakers because flip-flops or thongs will not last two seconds: the soles will get smashed flatter than a pancake and the thongs will go flying between a hoard of legs…you might even find your feet missing a toe or two.
Next is the uniform: a pair of tattered jeans and T-shirt left over from the last sales, a worn out striptease bra and triple reinforced granny panties. Do not wear make-up; it will accentuate your swollen black eye. Omit hair jewelry as they could be used as weapons against you. Be sure to use heavy upholstery thread to attach your cash/bank card pouch to your panties…on the inside. Otherwise, during a scuffle with the enemy–no rule is the rule—you might end up arrested for indecent exposure.
Now to reach the summit of your shopping high, strut about with glaring haughtiness…proud to advertise famous brands by displaying oversized shopping bags that are cleverly designed to instigate jealousy and competitiveness in others and to encourage compulsive spending. Have you noticed how loudly they crinkle to draw attention? Big bags suggest you have spent 3000€ rather than 89€. That is why small items are loosely wrapped in extra large sheets of tissue paper…it stuffs the bag and gives it the appearance of fullness, which feeds your ego to appear privileged. Clever marketing, is it not?
Anyway, the seasonal sale promotion is nothing more than a highly effective marketing scheme to clear stock of stagnant or slow-moving merchandise. Have you noticed the normal price of standard articles? You will see that many are marked lower or at the same price of the on sale tag! Pay attention!
Back to the main point: Why do intelligent adults behave like Pavlov’s dogs?
According to various statistics over the years, women, slightly outnumbering men, are prone to compulsive shopping whether or not there are sales. They are apt to purchase objects to plug up holes of emptiness or to compensate for chronic dissatisfaction. Worse, they eagerly pay to be a guinea pig for experimental facial or whole body makeovers. Pharmaceutical and cosmetic medicine industries are in heaven! (I will elaborate on this in the next article.) To be fair, I do know of men who moonlight in order to make minimal payments on several almost maxed-out bank cards–they only wear haute couture and purchase the most expensive gadgets and pleasure technologies. So there you go.
Looking further, notice how people mindlessly trample over each other in a savage race to grab the most for the least. Only greed and arrogance can motivate you to “outsmart the merchant to get something for nearly nothing.” However, scarcity fears push you to spend foolishly in order to obtain limited editions of must-have stuff so you will be in step with other robots and hated by those who have not the means.
But functioning like a robot is unconsciousness. You are allowing other people to direct your behavior, tell you how to live, dictate your values and interests. That is to say, you are a willing slave of consumerism. Therefore, you have masters in other areas of your life. You are obsessed by the affairs of folks who do not value your attention because you are uninterested in your real self.
I think I can think
Now celebrate playing this game of life in any fashion that suits you in the moment. Just be CONSCIOUS, DELIBERATE and HONEST with you. Soon you will tire of the slave role and take responsibility for your own life. That is all I am suggesting.
Tell me: what are your insights, experiences? I would enjoy hearing from you.
So post your comments below before you forget. And if you find something useful in this blog, why not subscribe so you can receive email notification each time I publish a post. Also, I would be highly honored if you recommended this blog to others who might benefit. Thank you in advance.
Men Readers: Your comments are valuable too & highly welcomed! ;-))
Shall we meet up again in a few days?
Until then,
Allow happiness!
Tandi
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Copyright © 2010-2012 Thandiwe Chappot, thefemininefeminine®. All rights reserved worldwide.
Good morning Beautiful People,
Well, bit by bit, I am learning more about how to improve the value of this blog. I have just added several widgets. One is “ratings”.
My humble request is “Can you leave a rating for each of the posts you have read or will read, please?” I will use these ratings to determine what is most important to you. In this way, I can add content that will meet your needs. For my intention is to offer you value, not to hear me run off at the mouth…I do not need to blog for that!
Also, for your information, I have completely rewritten my About page.
Thank you very much.
Allow happiness!
Tandi
Good morning Great People!
In spite of hundreds of thousands of books, poetry, business courses and procrastinators anonymous groups that offer the final technique for overcoming ‘the curse,’ procrastination continues to be one of the most prevalent plagues amongst homo sapiens, the supposedly most sophisticated lot in creation. Perhaps we can take a clue from our “lesser” four-legged siblings by doing now what needs to be done now because there is no other time in which to do it. The challenge for us is we think too much. Otherwise, we would not procrastinate. Anyway, I want to tell you how I am converting ‘the curse’ into a guard rail to keep me aligned with my vision. But not before explaining my perception of this forbidden word… here goes.
What is procrastination?
Time never flies backwards
Procrastination is an energy-draining emotion, melancholy, a feeling of dread of taking risks to be your authentic self. It is a mental retreat into mono-dialogues about long dead situations and people. Its goal is to prevent us from allowing the self to materialize its purpose. Because the moment we glimpse our vast potential, power and possibilities (only discernible in a state of awareness), we will be strongly tempted to transmute genuine longings into physical reality. During the process, we will awaken to another aspect of the self that is indestructible, fearless and limitless. We will exhibit real liberation and have an exponential influence in the advancement of humanity. But from a one-grain-of-sand perspective, this is scary.
For this reason, procrastination is disguised as preoccupations: consumerism, obsession with becoming a sex symbol, and an insatiable hunger for fame to feel special, adored and superior. It appears as irresponsible pregnancies, hypochondria or excessive entertainment. Worse are the addictions to manifesting dramas or crisis and to nosiness—overly involved in the affairs of others by way of monitoring adult children or engaged in celebrity gossip or reality shows or mean-spirited chatter about most of the others we encounter. We attempt to eradicate responsibility by mentally reconstructing the past in order to steal credit from others or by harboring morbid thoughts for hours on end.
Another word for procrastination is resistance. Here is where we flatly flip off our true but socially unacceptable feelings, preferences, gifts and talents. We risk our well-being in order to gain a few dubious compliments and invitations into the shallow elite club. But habitual hesitation—to do what we want— bores big holes in self-confidence and compromises our immune system. We grow dull, slow and ineffective. Consequently, the urge to give away our gifts and talents by practicing and developing our skills gradually recedes into oblivion. And so does our experience of love, inspiration and fulfillment—birthright luxuries that we expect to come to us rather than from us. We must give everything we have to offer in the moment in order to give more. As we give, we fling open a bottomless reservoir of gifts and talents to emerge from within us. Simultaneously, we are allowing the world to give to us exactly what we need. What a beautiful exchange! The more you give, the more of life you will experience!
Where did procrastination come from?
As far as I know, no one is born a procrastinator–babies are totally present. And so are young children before they learn to reject their natural instincts. During early childhood, we are, unfortunately, conditioned either to discard our ideas or to wait until some date in a future before we can act on inspiration—but that day, for most, never arrives. Children are too often prevented from taking minimum risk to implement a concept that might upset the cart of familiarity. Our keepers’ disciplinary tactics train us to discredit or ignore our intuitive nature, mistrust the self and to develop blind faith in folks whose comprehension of self is questionable.
Children are conditioned to submit to intimidation, scarcity beliefs and shame…and guilt, after disobeying. Fear of being ousted from home keeps rebelliousness at bay to a great extent. (By the way, getting ousted is not limited to income status.) Eventually our natural creative impulses and sense of invincibility descend deeply below the level of conscious access. So in order to earn a living, i.e., deserve to live via conformity (having the basic necessities of life and a sense of belonging), we instantly become master people pleasers, slaves of the whims and ill will of elder slaves we call family, friends and authority figures. The original plan for our life gets buried beneath inertia: the result of a habitual procrastinator.
Why do we procrastinate when we do not want to?
There is a tendency amongst adults to prefer a permanent position of receiver without contributing one iota to the motion of life. I call it adult toddler narcissism. But nature has never been stagnant. It pushes forward, upward to its fullest ever-expanding possibilities. Have you noticed how easily petit, delicate flowers push through a concrete sidewalk? They literally crack it open. Amazing! Imagine the dire consequences if these beauties had contemplated the weight of the mixture of gravel, sand, cement and water for even ten minutes. Hesitation would have killed an exquisite idea before its birth. Nothing in the universe (except you) can prevent you from bringing a clear, definite intention into physical manifestation.
Better to do what you love!
I have learned from bouts of battling against it that procrastination is not some armored enemy to kill off. In fact, it is nothingness. Eventually this self-inflicted habit will lead you to abandon trendy anti-resistance strategies and simply choose to do as you sincerely want to do and need to do, in order to nurture your soul, satisfy your creative impulses and to feel more of your own aliveness. Next, you must value happiness and freedom more than playing a puppet role. Finally, you have to start doing whatever it is that you have promised yourself.
However, it is absolutely necessary that you recognize subtle masks of inertia. I am sure some of these, if not all, will ring true for you or for someone in your circle. These masks have been gleaned from my personal experience and my coaching clients.
Is “feeling prohibited” procrastination?
Feeling prohibited is procrastination if you are blaming your inaction on something outside of yourself or you are ‘not in the mood’ to or ‘do not feel like’ doing it. Otherwise, this feeling of gentle hesitation, a soft pull to engage in another positive activity, could be your intuition making sure your intention unfolds with ease in divine sequence. This has happened to me countless times. My intentions did manifest easily with minimum effort.
Okay, one last word…
We are not condemned to a life of procrastination. Choice is available this second, right now. Crave to take the risk of being abandoned by relationships you value the most because you finally garnered enough self-respect to act on your behalf. Do not panic, you will always receive the support you need as you need it. Does it matter the channel that brings it to you? Crave to test drive your own potential on your private road—you have the remainder of this lifetime to do it. So do it now! What are you waiting for, your last breath of regret and self-pity?
Tell me: what are your insights, experiences? I would enjoy hearing from you.
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Shall we meet up again in a few days?
Until then,
Allow happiness!
Tandi
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HAVE A HAPPY, HEALTHY & FUN NEW YEAR, BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE!
Creative Life
For every spark of life, successful manifestation of its intention is inevitable. You, too, are luminous sparks of endless life. From the start you are lavishly endowed with everything you need to flourish, to succeed in manifesting anything and everything you sincerely desire or even unwittingly do not want.
There really is nothing to chase or grab hold of and hide from suspects or hoard for the days of famine you robotically construct in your mind. You are ready now to transcend this primitive, yet requisite, stage of awakening through forced actions—feeling forced by the expectations of people you respect more than your very own self; plus 12 to 20 years of sponge schooling in lieu of self-examination which inspires best actions. Are you ready to abandon your attachment to lassitude and neediness? Are you ready to jump off the jam-packed ledge of cowards and listen to and follow your deepest calling?
Success is not an enigma. Nor is it allotted to a privileged minority. If achieving money, fame or coveted awards is the sum of success, then, at least 90% of the world’s peoples are failures. Of course, you know better! The first experience of mega success occurred in the moment you escaped the womb, somebody cut the umbilical cord and you swallowed your first liquid food. After that, everything you have learned and have practiced enough (whether labeled right or wrong) has prepared you for the next sequence in your upward spiral development. So then, why does the majority of humanity minimize or prevent their innate propensity to succeed? Here is my abridged view.
You have been duped both by implicit and brazen advertisements since babyhood. You get the impression that phantom puppeteers control the brains of ad agencies, which bombard your senses with streaming adverts to induce feelings of unworthiness and inferiority unless you succumb to excessive consumerism. They maintain their position of puppeteer of the masses by strengthening the fear of being alone with yourself, ridicule from others and of taking full responsibility for your life. They provoke an infantile wish to be breastfed and the sole object of attention—i.e., narcissism.
Thanks to maliciously crafted crowd-hypnosis, you blindly rush to join the self-defacement society. I am not speaking about egoism: the need to fit in so not to risk exclusion from the flock or to pretend humility and kindness and appear lofty or privileged. I am referring to collective self-defacement as an effective mechanism to keep you distracted from the bigger self within and your original plan for exploring life in human form.
Caution! We are not jumping on the victim wagon here. Remember: you were born with the capacity to decide how you want to experiment with your life—via resistance, struggle or flow, a state of allowing. You can succeed on every level by simply being true to yourself, authentic in your intention. If you deliberately let your life flourish, even though you will not know beforehand the sequence of actions and coincidences, you will easily do whatever is required to transmute your intention into physical reality. No one can cause you to fail. No one. Because what you are witnessing today is the result of your choice. Therefore, you are creating an endless success story right here in the timeless now.
“If it is to be, it is up to me.” – Anonymous
(I cover in depth the subject of success in my book-in-progress. I will keep you informed as it progresses.)
Tell me: what are your insights, experiences? I would enjoy hearing from you.
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Shall we meet up again in a few days?
Until then,
Allow happiness!!
Tandi
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Good morning Great People,
Most of us have been taught that in order to live without accumulating debt we must live within, preferably significantly below, our means. Means, of course, refers to money. I do not completely agree with this practice because there’s a subtle suggestion of scarcity and lack beliefs rather than fearless and wise use of plenitude.
Common counsel says manage your spending priorities by either tithing first (an act of faith) or by paying for the necessities of life first (food, housing…). Next, you should save a fixed percentage of your gross income or revenues and if there is a modest surplus, you can spend it on prudently selected ‘little pleasures’ and somewhat alleviate the frustration of not having quite enough or pinching pennies.
A more elaborate strategy recommends: first, pay yourself by saving a percentage (it will increase as revenues grow) in order to invest and ultimately generate sufficient passive income that will set you free from sweat and toil. Second, attend to the necessities of living and pay your bills as best you can. And last, the only money you spend on pleasures will come from net profits from your investments. In both scenarios, you are advised to manage what you have wisely, depending on your circumstances, point of view, lifestyle goals and personality: the latter plan appears to emerge from the philosophy of wealth consciousness in respect to finance. But the problem inherent in believing only money is means prohibits most of us from seeing beyond the jingles in our pockets or the fluctuating totals on our ledger sheets.
In other words, we construct a one-grain-of-sand view of means, source and life. We believe our extremely limited human perspective reveals the totality of a situation, subject or person. However, if you would blink one more time, you will know that no being or thing is ever left out of the ineffable goings-on in the universe, on this earth, because each equally is an indispensable aspect of it. And this fact applies to means.
One Source Many Means
Ponder this. Means is any and all avenues or channels through which we receive the fulfillment of our needs and real desires. Therefore, each of us is a means via our natural gifts, talents and skills, being a living example, sharing what we have. It also appears as opportunities, intuition or flash insights, a gut feeling, money, ideas to act on, unexpected gifts, serendipity, a particular person, objects, solutions, strong persistent pull, sudden urge, nudging or prompt to say or do something immediately. Means shows up as media, coincidence, seemingly unrelated events, conditions and unexpected changes in lifestyle. It is the individual’s responsibility to develop acute, alert awareness while maintaining a relaxed receptive attitude. Otherwise, we might confuse means with its source. Ignorance of this subtle difference has caused the interment of countless numbers of unknown geniuses.
You might ask, “Is not means and source the same?” Yes, in that, as far as I am concerned, there is only the One (infinite, eternal source) expressing itself as infinite many forms (right-for-now means). So the means is individuated expressions of the One. Therefore, the One is the essence, source of all means. But because of deeply engrained beliefs sustained by the masses that money, prestigious titles, social status, power of influence, health & beauty and fame are the source of happiness, success, romance and love, we function from a platform of fear, anxiety, jealousy, competitiveness, greed and yes, poverty. We witness the precariousness of means and adopt the one-grain-of-sand conclusion… giving means the post it can never occupy: the source.
So what shall we do? To start, I would suggest trying out the steps I am going to outline in this post. They worked for me! This is how it all started.
As usual, I tend to happen upon insights, situations, people, opportunities, etc. that move my life forward. One day, I happened to notice myself assessing the purpose of my surroundings, my body, family and friends, current lifestyle and how I brought them about. I had never before felt such depth of clarity, gratitude and appreciation for me, everyone, everything, including very painful encounters and situations. The insights that emerged carried me deeper to understand the subtle but huge difference between source and means. I eventually discovered security and independence from within, which is not at all measured by external reality. I will speak in depth about this in a future post.
Mind you, the process I went through was not without emotional pain associated with fear and doubt. But my willingness and readiness to know was powerful enough to keep me on track during the darkest hours. And there were many. This is what I learned to do and I still do it when I revert to irresponsible activities—blame, anger, cowardice or self-pity.
1)– In a casual way, look beyond the obvious for the purpose or the intention behind your desire. Expect to dig deep until you sense your single core intention. Refrain from judging or justifying your sincere desires that are deemed unacceptable by others. The opinion of others about you is irrelevant and is none of your business. Note that intention is the command-energy that summons your desire into physical reality. Your desire will appear to show up from out there via various channels or means. However, it already exists in its full potential within you but only your readiness for it allows you to ‘see’ what we label: a manifestation.
2)– Allow yourself to enjoy experiencing the multiple dimensions of your thoughts, feelings, insights and urges to take action in an unexpected way. It will never be an urge to abuse yourself or others! Be sure not to judge or label your experience. Simply observe yourself and respond spontaneously to whatever comes up. If you allow it, rather than resist whatever is happening, you will receive tremendous clarity, insights, solutions, positive closure on dangling issues and other lovely surprises. You will feel more alive, confident, at ease in your body, at ease in your world.
Next, in the same relaxed manner, repeat steps 1 and 2 for all living beings whether humans, animals, moon, plants, rocks, country, annoyances; and your personal belongings, relationships, current situation, state of mind and body, lifestyle, your goals and not the puny goals others may prescribe for you. I repeat: unless someone’s goal for you is bigger and more inspiring than the one you have already set for yourself, trash it without apologies or guilt.
Last, if you are truly open to being free, you will notice the folly in placing your life in the hands of fleeting channels or means—expecting them to offer you permanence of security, safety, lifestyle, love, income or happiness. The source of you, the source of your experience and the source of the means through which you give and receive is the same source of every other experience in the universe, simultaneously. Means emerges from source, not the reverse. Remember: One source and infinite forms of means or channels.
Sidebar: the reason folks go on strikes, murder, burglarize, commit suicide, join sects and switch political parties is due to prolonged frustration from depending on means–like parents, spouse, employers, government policies, professional titles or clients that will one day retire from serving you–as your inexhaustible source. Nothing made, a finished product, is the source of itself. Can the pot make the potter?
So now you know. Let me show you a little trick…it is so simple you will be surprised even though this bit of information is older than the hills. Nothing is new here. An example: imagine that you want X amount of money this month. Be honest with yourself—know your underlying intention for wanting it. Do you want to impress folks and get their approval or envy and get noticed so you can feel worthy? Or simply to feel good about being able to spend as you like and enjoy your purchase without experiencing negative consequences? Why is self-honesty important? You will manifest your underlying intention, which may or may not include the object you think you want. In other words, you may receive money via familiar or unexpected channels or the object you wish to purchase without having to pay for it yourself. Rather than wracking your brain about exactly how or when you will manifest your intention, go about doing the things that inspire happiness, activities that produce pleasurable experiences.
You can start by sincerely appreciating what and who you are, your current situation and everything you have so far. You can practice your talents, the gifts you were born with and develop your natural skills. You can indulge in well-being activities or walk in nature or engage in pleasant small talk with an elderly neighbor who craves human contact. You can apply for a job or contact potential clients or post content on your website. Why not learn something new? Point is: engage in any activity you feel drawn to that feels just right in your mind and body right here right now. Then your doing will be a pleasure, an attractor of love, success and opulence rather than tainted with anxiety, anger, thoughts of lack and scarcity.
Because your mind is not at all focused on the how or when your need or desire will appear in your experience, best results will happen quicker and you will feel as if it sort of manifested without your input. At least that has been my experience more and more frequently.
Tell me: what are your insights, experiences? I would enjoy hearing from you.
So post your comments below before you forget. And if you find something useful in this blog, why not subscribe so you can receive email notification each time I publish a post. And recommend this blog to others who might benefit. Thank you in advance.
Shall we meet up again this week?
Until then,
Allow happiness!
Tandi
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Good morning Beautiful People,
The following text is a gratitude poem. But because I’m temporarily inept in using this blog platform, alas, I had to convert it into paragraph form.
Dear Friends, how much I thank you!
You broke my fall into an abyss of despair. You added me to your holiday guest list, and sent me fabulous people links and web links to boost my morale, to boost my knowledge, to boost my income.
Thank you Friends for confiding in me.
You trusted me to guard your worst fears and ‘hideous’ wants and secrets. And thanks for safeguarding mine! We taught each other those things that we ourselves had not grasped. All that sincere sharing grew us, especially me, hopefully you too.
Thank you Friends for playing my playmate—
Did we not wake up our carefree, giggly, silly selves? So much fun had we, to be responsibly irresponsible & spontaneous! Being immune to disciplinary stares in public places, we modeled pure joy.
Thank you Friends who pretended to be strangers passing in a flash.
You reflected back to me what I needed to examine & keep me synchronized in integrity. Thank you for being a caretaker when the babyish me was bigger than the adult me…You provided a refuge so that i could lick my wounds from battling the invisible war in my head.
Thank you Friends for applauding my little successes.
You have been my first row fans & competent critics who pointed me to excellence. Without you, I would exist as vapor…unable to stand upright in the world.
Thank you Friends for your sunrise concert, your upbeat chatter & wing flapping…
Just before you dove faster than fighter jets from roofs to grab beaks-full of dry stalks or balls of green moss, weeds & loose gravel from my balcony garden; and peeled off dead slivers of bark to build the most exquisite weather-proof houses, meticulously arranging one piece at a time. What presence! What intelligence! What love! You show me how to design with finesse.
Thank you Friends for reminding me of “seed of potential.”
How wise you are to speak loudly & clearly without an audible voice! You bend with the tempest without breaking. You shed yourself bare & bow low in gratitude, reverence for life. Every time I look towards my balcony there you are—growing, forever elegantly, new leaves & limbs & bark with original color schemes to attract the perfect residents. You are allowing your own seed of potential to flourish to its fullest.
I thank you past & future, my ghost Friends, for making it plain how you do not exist.
Past is a pretty synonym of mental cemetery: A favorite, highly frequented spot where human beings indulge in exhuming the same old bones gone to dust, the material used to build a feared or longed for future. Because ‘you are not,’ I have returned to living fearlessly: I create right now & I experience the results right here in my consciousness!
Thank you critter Friends: especially the spider that weaved a web across my window that attracted strange teeny-weeny critters that left unsightly stains that compromised my view. So I sprayed vinegar water to chase it away.
The next morning, spider had constructed a new more elaborate web. This time I thoroughly cleaned my window of web & stains. But on day three, a new web just as beautiful had trapped several tiny critters frantically attempting to escape. What is your message Friend?
“Never give up! Give total attention to your intention. If failures seem endless, do what you do better until your intention is manifested”.…Yes, Spider is me.
Thank you Friends–the light, air, earth & water that sustain this physical body; the mind that designs my whole life experience: this planet playground in which I have fun trying out my talents & gifts; examining results (what is, a finished product); contemplating cause & effect to expand my awareness & capacity to give more of the limitless reservoir of love intelligence that I am.
Thank you Friends. Thank you.
Good morning Beautiful People,
I would appreciate hearing your comments. Let’s share! Here is my bit.
There’s no permanent power in the destructible.
Those who take the most are the poorest. For taking, not giving, equals fear in action–the kingdom of suffering.
Positive beliefs are better than fatalistic ones. But eventually we must transcend them. A belief, vulnerable to alteration or disproof, can never be the truth. Beliefs cannot co-exist with direct knowing or intuition.
Nightmare: the belief in the moment that love and life are absent.
The body itself is a passive instrument. It neither falls ill nor heals itself. Both of these are mental projections on the body. What we perceive as real in our world, individually and collectively, is energetically manifested in the body… as harmony or disharmony.
I’m not interested in a person’s criticism or opinion about me. It’s none of my business. I have happier things to do…like to feel empathy for the person as I hope someone felt for me when I too criticised and shouted know-it-all opinions about others, including against myself.
To love another person is easy when we see ourselves in the individual. And everybody is our very own self. The hardest is to accept hate of ourselves projected in people because we prefer to believe in the illusion of separation…It’s them! Not me!
Words and actions must marry before you get the prize. –Wanda Pilot, my youngest sister.
The question to ask and answer all day long is Do I love me enough to be true to myself right here, right now?
Being a fraud in one area of living contaminates all other areas. Truth is complete, seamless. It cannot be compartmentalized.
Authors of entertainment have simple objectives. They want to inspire awareness and growth or laughter and lightheartness to soothe the soul or to keep the viewers dull, fearful and moldable… distracted from themselves and essentially miserable.
I apply makeup or hair color to enhance my natural beauty and to give myself a new look, but not to hide supposed flaws or to conform to some superficial standard of femininity. I let them show. I’m fine just the way I am.
Recently, I realized that I, too, am light; not just seeing it external to myself in others. I also am included.
Knowing What I am gives me an accurate clue to Who I am.
My only maxim is Be Completely Authentic 100% of the time. This for me is the point of departure for all decisions, intentions and actions. Being authentic or true to myself is the only way I can practice Love In Action.
Speech has one purpose: to communicate a state of love. It was never meant to be a noise-box shouting egocentric strings of letters and symbols weighted down by irrelevance.
Discipline only is necessary when I am forcing myself to do something I don’t want to do, resisting the moment, blind to the Grace that envelops the now.
The now moment is never contaminated by the past nor altered by futuristic fantasies. How can it be when neither past nor future exist in reality!
I can trace all my suffering to one cause: I was not true to myself continuously. The cure is obvious.
Until next time, thank you and enjoy life!
tandi
©2010-2011 Thandiwe Chappot. thefemininefeminine, a blog. One is Two. All rights reserved worldwide.
–There is no risk in truth.
–So much endless searching for your purposeful work, passion, gift to the world…procrastinating to avoid loving or giving. Why not start at your current level of understanding? What are you waiting for–for your gift to descend from a summit? But what is it? you ask. Your gift is sitting quietly in your daily choices. It is the subject of your outrageous daydreams that you dare not expose. It appears as your persistent preferences, pleasures and intuitive knowing and in your leisure moments. It is smack in the middle of your relationships. All. It infiltrates each nuance of living because of its seamless presence in your experience. There is nothing to seek. Simply pay attention to your intuition edging you forward rather than vacillating between what you know and the imposition of puny opinions and judgment of spectators. What do they have to do with you? Nothing at all. Their projections are none of your business. Know that what you are running from is clinging to you. Why not give it a big hug and make it your lover?
–“It’s very immature to be afraid.” Wanda J. Pilot
–There is never anything to wait for…to happen or to do or to come to us. It is already done, already complete and is present, with us here now. Our job is to become acutely aware of it. In that moment, we will have initiated an easy accomplishment.
–We’ve been hearing since forever: “Outflow determines inflow.” But there’s more to outflow than working and scheming for monetary returns. Outflow starts with our thinking, desires, moment-to-moment choices, intentions, attitude, beliefs, feelings and words, which direct each single action or activity. At the same time, everything we’re experiencing today is inflow–the result of yesterday’s internal and external actions.
–Loneliness does not emerge from solitude or alienation. It is an effect of believing we are separate beings, on the outskirts of life. And the thought of joining the game of self-responsibility feels too threatening to attempt.
–I like knowing that no matter what happens, life is unfolding in Love order, in divine sequence.
–Fear and frustration arise when we attempt to control the flow of Life, which is impossible. If we persist, the resistance triggers a deterioration process of the mind, then the body. And no quantity of injections, pills, clever flesh carving or padding can prevent body rot. Let Life have its way and the mind plus body will jump for joy!
–The primary reason relationships dissolve into chaos is each party forgets that Love is always omnipresent. If Love is omnipresent then it must be all the power, all intelligence. All it takes is one person to remember this truth frequently. This I can witness: Love does heal all ills.
Is Life the activity of Love? Its outer reflection, manifestation? Is mind an amusing instrument of Life to create and pretend to play all the characters in its imaginary physical universe?
Tandi quotes are updated weekly.
11 November 2010
Trees outside my window woke me up clapping in roaring unison as the morning rays licked each leaf with the most tender loving appreciation.
I’m so happy I can hardly speak. I’m overtaken by spontaneous grinning.
Thank you so much for your positive emails regarding previous posts. But can you share your ideas & comments below so that others can benefit, get encouragement? I really want to hear from you! And I will respond. Thank you!
Life is fun!
Thandiwe
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YOU CAN JOIN ANY TIME, PLENTY OF SPACE AVAILABLE
PROMISE YOURSELF EACH MORNING UPON RISING THAT YOU WILL DO THIS LIST TOMORROW, WITHOUT FAIL.
Refuse to focus on the present moment; the past & future are more entertaining.
Struggle to change what is (a finished product of the past).
Gossip, blame, get very angry & speak rudely & loudly to others.
Waste time & energy by watching mind-mumbing TV, reading ‘people’ publications, surfing the internet, meeting up with unhappy others for cut-throat gossip sessions.
Abuse your body with foods, drink, drugs, insufficient activity, orifice pacifiers (tobacco, fingernails, food, objects…).
Rehash or reconstruct the past to make you look good, nearly perfect to your audience.
Procrastinate doing self-reliance type activities.
Have a tantrum in public to attract attention & pity.
Practice road rage.
Literally hate the elderly, the richer, beggars, those others who exhibit self-confidence & courage, do not look like or behave as you wish, have achieved in spite of heavy challenges.
Revenge your self-created enemies for not measuring down to your expectations.
Pout & rebel like a disgrundled 2-year old.
Display arrogance by showing how unappreciative you are.
Beg God & government to let you have your narcissistic way at the expense of others.
Cut queue to prove your superiority.
Lie, cheat, steal just because you can.
Invade the privacy of others but complain & revenge when others invade yours.
Interject your know-it-all opinions into conversations about which you know nothing & that do not concern you anyway.
Practice resistance: the “No I can’t be/have/do because____” habits of cowards.
Go out of your way to give alms to those you perceive as inferior to or lower than you.…those poor god-forgotten scum of the earth that we uppers must look after.
Give with conditions attached to the gift: a covert style of control–expect the receiver to respond & behave according to your wishes, so that you can get ego-gratification.
Criticize everyone about everything–especially friends who are thriving, success models of your own background, neighbors, other nationalities & cultures, politicians, people more knowledgeable & creative than you.
Be 100% irresponsible, then attempt to manipulate others into suffering the consequences.
Make sure the low end of mediocrity is your highest standard of achievement.
Compete on every level to be the top dog of self-deception & a shallow existence.
Blame deceased parents, childhood experiences, ‘the system’ for your laziness & ignorance.
At every opportunity, revenge & hurt others with your sly off-hand remarks. This way you hide your own cowardice from yourself (though not from your audience).
Be quick to compare those rare split seconds of circumstance-initiated actions you are pushed into taking, to those who deliberately choose self-reliance regardless of circumstances.
Have handy excuses to justify your selfish refusal to offer your talents to the world.
Please share your ideas, comments below. I really want to hear from you! And I will respond.
Have fun!
Thandiwe
Copyright (C) 2010 by Thandiwe Chappot, One is Two®, thefemininefeminine® (a blog), Permission is granted to reproduce or distribute this article, blog post, web links, only in its entirety, intact, and provided credits and copyright are acknowledged.
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